Reboot Podcast Episode #129 – Loving Your Inner Critic – with Erine Gray

The Reboot podcast showcases the heart and soul, the wins and losses, the ups and downs of startup leadership. On the show, Entrepreneurs, CEO’s, and Startup Leaders discuss with Jerry Colonna the emotional and psychological challenges they face daily as leaders.


Erine Gray

Erine Gray

Founder and CEO of Aunt Bertha

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Episode Description

On this episode of the Reboot Podcast, we introduce you to Erine Gray, founder of Aunt Bertha, a nationwide search and referral platform for connecting people in need with available government and charitable programs. In his time with Jerry, Erine recounts growing up as a poor child in a small town and how the experience repeatedly left him feeling judged and unaccepted, triggering feelings of anger and shame. He opens up about his struggle to shake the underdog mentality and how it undermines his confidence as a leader. Jerry and Erine discuss insecurities, faith, and why loving your inner critic is critical for compassionate leadership.

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Show Highlights

Top Quotes:

“I spent a lot of years resisting my gut because I would value the experience of others over my own.” – Erine Gray

“I’ve got a big underdog sort of mentality that I latch onto quite a bit.” – Erine Gray

“I know food insecurity. I know that shame. It was confusing for me because I would conflate the shame of our financial situation with the shame of my mother’s mental illness.” – Jerry Colonna

“What I see before me is a man who stays connected to his most painful experiences so that he may be a service to others, which in my book is the basis of compassion.” – Jerry Colonna

“Faith is taking that step when all you have is that gut feeling. Faith is not explaining it.” – Erine Gray

“We are equal. No matter what story you tell yourself, no matter what you project onto me, but I am just as broken, and I struggle just as much.” – Jerry Colonna

“One of the most powerful messages that I have found in all of the spiritual traditions I have encountered is the absolute essential nature of loving oneself.” – Jerry Colonna

“I am not going to feel fully loved and worthy of love if I am cherry-picking the parts of me that I like.” – Jerry Colonna

“We as a society hate the parts of our society, the parts of our global collective itself, that we fear that we believe we might become. And the result is a divisiveness that is ripping apart the soul of this nation.” – Jerry Colonna

“Loss of faith shows up when the lack of trust in oneself shows up. What if, instead of seeing it as something that needs to be changed, we saw it as something that needed to be loved?” – Jerry Colonna

“I believe that anger in the name of justice is love. The opposite of love is not anger. It’s hate. Anger can be in service of love. Thank goodness so many leaders have gotten angry. That’s how the world changes.” – Jerry Colonna