Reboot Podcast Episode #61 – The Seasons of Our Lives – with Sally Spencer-Thomas

The Reboot podcast showcases the heart and soul, the wins and losses, the ups and downs of startup leadership. On the show, Entrepreneurs, CEO’s, and Startup Leaders discuss with Jerry Colonna the emotional and psychological challenges they face daily as leaders.

EPISODE 61 // May 26, 2017


Sally Spencer-Thomas

Sally Spencer-Thomas

Psychologist and Impact Entrepreneur

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Episode Description

Sally Spencer-Thomas is a psychologist who found herself in a moment in which she was not prepared when her brother died of suicide. After that significant event in her life, Sally poured much of her life into engaging leaders and finding bold, gap-filling solutions for suicide prevention in schools, workplaces, and communities. Driven by the memory of her brother, Sally dove into her work, and along the way, she found a community and purpose around her brother’s legacy.

Over the last 14 years, Sally encountered her own onerous moments of depression. From these moments, she came to understand the power of community and the importance of a caring person. On her journey, Sally has become more attuned to asking, “What is this moment teaching me? What can I do to learn here?” a testament to her resilience. Now, she’s facing big life transitions in both her work and her role as a parent, and she finds herself listening for what her inner voice is saying as she’s wondering, “Who am I, now, in this season of my life?”

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Show Highlights

Top Quotes 

“Whenever you’re in an overwhelming life situation, it’s the people who love you that carry you through.” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“Marvel has done such a great job of teaching us, every superpower has a negative side to it.” – Jerry Colonna

“…take your experience and take that pain and not “try to fix the problem,” but create a platform for the community to come together around the problem.” – Jerry Colonna

“Eventually the struggle passes, and we don’t necessarily have control over when it passes.” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“Good times will pass, bad times will pass, time passes. Time passes. When you’re mired in these struggles it’s really, really hard, to recognize that.” – Jerry Colonna

“And the trick is to be as present as possible in the good times, knowing that they’re not going to last, and have gratitude and presence to say, “This moment is good.”” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“These are the tools to get by, what did Freud call it, psychopathology of everyday life: Love, community, friendship, humor.” – Jerry Colonna

“On some level, I knew what I was going through and I knew in my head what would have been helpful. And I couldn’t do it.” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“I let a couple people in. I’m like, “I’m not doing so well.” And what I got back was unconditional love.” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“As CEO I often falsely internalize a sense of responsibility for everybody else. But I don’t allow myself to think of myself as needing their help.” – Jerry Colonna

“What I probably really needed to do is take a little bit of leave and get grounded again.” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“…who am I if I’m not at the heart and soul of this company anymore?”” – Sally Spencer -Thomas

“The ultimate existential question. Who am I if my professional career is no longer defined in opposition to or in accordance with? Who am I?” – Jerry Colonna

“I care about your resiliency. Because if you’re more resilient you will be a better leader.” – Jerry Colonna

“Who am I in this moment, in this season of my life, in this time of my life, and who am I tomorrow? And how does my work and my life lay in alignment with the answer to that question in the moment?” – Jerry Colonna

“When we have space where we can be our true selves and all the warts, and all the self-doubts, people actually love us more.” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“The true balance is where the outer expression of what we do matches the inner expression of who we are. It’s just how we live.” – Jerry Colonna

“Can we create work environments where we have the ability to be our authentic self as not something that’s scheduled in, or a mandated program coming from the HR department?” – Jerry Colonna

“Mile 17 passes. And you just keep going and pull from the energy of the other runners around you. And you’ll get there.” – Sally Spencer-Thomas

“The antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest. What is it, then? The antidote to exhaustion is wholeheartedness.” – David Whyte