Reboot Podcast Episode #95 – Who We’re Meant to Be – with Joe Wilding

The Reboot podcast showcases the heart and soul, the wins and losses, the ups and downs of startup leadership. On the show, Entrepreneurs, CEO’s, and Startup Leaders discuss with Jerry Colonna the emotional and psychological challenges they face daily as leaders.

Episode 95 // December 4, 2018

Guests

Joe Wilding

Joe Wilding

co-founder and CTO at Boom Supersonic

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Episode Description

On this episode of the Reboot Podcast, we welcome Joe Wilding, the co-founder and CTO of Boom Supersonic, a Colorado-based company focused on reviving supersonic air travel. Joe, an avid listener of the podcast, reached out to Jerry in gratitude and revealed that although he’d experienced successes and various advancements throughout his career, he’s always grappled with a nagging feeling that he wasn’t measuring up to the other “great leaders” in his field.

Introverted and a highly-visual learner, Joe (self-diagnosed as falling somewhere on Asperger’s spectrum) always felt he was wired just a bit differently than his peers. Throughout the past decade, Joe has transitioned out of supporting roles and into higher management positions; recently, this has triggered thoughts around authenticity in leadership and has materialized the urge to align his inner and outer self in the workplace.

With support from Jerry, Joe aims to tackle the question, “What type of leader am I?” Jerry emphasizes to Joe that there are many ways to lead, and the tendency to constantly compare ourselves to others often serves in diminishing our ability to grow into our most authentic self, inhibiting our ability to become who we’re really meant to be.

 

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Show Highlights

Top Quotes:

“I was really struggling with the transition and what it ended up being was, this image that I had in my mind of what my role should have been versus what I actually like to do and what I like to focus my time on and those two not being in sync.” – Joe Wilding

“I just need to throw away this idea of I should be X. Or I need to fit into some mold. I just need to do what I do in a way that is most effective for the company and that gives myself and the company the most chance of success.” – Joe Wilding

“I could see other great leaders around me and it’s like, “Oh, I want to be more like them” when I really wasn’t wired that way.” – Joe Wilding

“It’s always nice to know I’m not the only person that struggles with these things or thinks this way.” – Joe Wilding

“The emotional side of a topic is not second nature for me. I have to actively process through it. “ – Joe Wilding

“There’s a lot of good stuff about me that actually gets squashed.” – Joe Wilding

“In violence is what we do when we don’t know what to do with our suffering.” – Parker J. Palmer

“So is crying a negative? Sure. Perhaps. It gets tossed as the black bag behind us, it becomes part of our shadow. But so might be joy. So might be exuberance. So might be an artistic expression. So might be a desire to move or live in our bodies.” – Jerry Colonna

“Who me? I don’t need to cry. Who me? I don’t have doubts. Who me? And it shows up in leadership all the time, I don’t have any question about what we should be doing. I will plunge ahead leading our team even if I don’t actually have the answers. I will not admit that I don’t even have the answers.” – Jerry Colonna

“We suffer because there’s a part of us that’s being told constantly by another part of us that we are unacceptable.” – Jerry Colonna

“The outer behavior of who you are is out of alignment with the inner belief system that you have.” – Jerry Colonna

“One of the rules that you seem to have carried and internalized, and by the way you’re far from alone, is that to be a man is to allow the inner and outer to be out of alignment.” – Jerry Colonna

“When you understand that you are a good man even if you make mistakes, the need for that survival strategy, that five-year old’s view of the world, gets lessened and you can thank you but I got this. I can take care of myself and the people that I love.” – Jerry Colonna

“I’m okay, foibles and all, and I’m still going to keep growing.” – Jerry Colonna