I saw my father cry for the first time when I was ten. It was just a few weeks before Christmas, and the six of us kids were really looking forward to getting a tree and a few toys. We had been talking about it for months and knew exactly the magic the Christmas spirit could bring. One particularly cold day, Dad walked in the front door looking defeated. He announced that he’d lost his job—two weeks before Christmas.
He’d been working at Adams Payne Printing in New York for over 30 years (interrupted only by his service in World War II). He’d joined the firm straight out of high school; it was the only work he knew. The firm had adopted new technology a month or so prior, and now, technology was replacing traditional typesetting firms like the one my dad worked at. There was no more place for him in the printing world, which likely meant no Christmas for us.
Every time new technology displaces loyal employees or leaders grapple with telling an entire team that they are no longer needed, I’m reminded of that day. But it’s not just technology that spins at a breakneck pace in today’s world. News, social media, and the desperate claw to be current all feed constant social anxiety.
But how can we step away, step back, and slow down when the world demands continuous change? How can we look in the eyes of a man who’s spent 30 loyal years that he’s no longer needed? And how do we return from the unsettling feelings that arise when the deed is done?
There’s no way to stop the world from spinning or ignore technology’s benefits. What we can do is hold fast and strong to our own values. We can reconcile with ourselves when we have had to do a tough deed, knowing that we did it consciously, openly, and honestly. We can feel all the feelings of having to make tough decisions as leaders if we make those choices with a clear head and the knowledge that our values are still intact.
Here are some ways to cope with those tough decisions:
Technology will come and go, and that means tough decisions. However, as a leader, those decisions never have to stray from your culture or values.
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